How to Write Wedding Vows: A Personal Guide

Nov 1

Writing your own wedding vows is one of the most beautiful and meaningful ways to personalise your wedding ceremony. Your vows are a reflection of your love, your promises, and the unique bond you share with your partner. Whether you’re aiming for something short and sweet or detailed and heartfelt, the key is to make them truly your own.

A Personal Approach to Writing Wedding Vows

When I was writing my wedding vows, I took notes of sweet thoughts, lines from movies, and song lyrics that resonated with our love story. These little inspirations helped me craft vows that were not only deeply personal but also meaningful and unique to our relationship.

Here’s an excerpt from my own vows:

"Everything I knew made even more sense and I understood my path to that moment and to now and of our future together. The stars and planets aligned for us to meet in that moment on that day, and one year later we’ve chosen this day to mark a commitment of a lifetime of love, to start the rest of our lives together, to be married and to start a family in a lifetime of joy and abundance."

"Falling in love with you is knowing Home. Home is with you, Hannah. I have found the one my soul knows."

"Today I sail safely through the harbor Home to my Lighthouse. I will keep you safe and you will keep me warm. And together we’ll make the world even more beautiful. As we continue to carry out our souls' vision and mission. You and I together is where the sea meets the sky and we have the world."

Vows can be a heartfelt declaration like mine, or they can be more lighthearted, funny, or even brief. What matters most is that they reflect who you are as a couple.

Tips for Writing Your Wedding Vows

Start Early: Give yourself plenty of time to think about what you want to say. Start jotting down ideas as soon as you can. This way, you won’t feel rushed, and you can refine your thoughts over time.
Reflect on Your Relationship: Think about the journey you’ve shared together. Consider the moments that have defined your relationship and how you’ve grown as a couple. Use these reflections as the foundation for your vows.
Incorporate Personal Touches: Include personal anecdotes, shared experiences, or inside jokes. These touches make your vows unique and meaningful, not just to you but also to your partner.
Express Your Love and Commitment: Clearly state what you love about your partner and what you’re committing to in your marriage. Whether it’s promising to support them in their dreams or vowing to always make them laugh, make sure your promises are genuine.
Keep it Balanced: Your celebrant will help ensure that both partners’ vows are aligned in their length and tone. This helps create a balanced ceremony where neither partner’s vows overshadow the other’s.
Practice Reading Aloud: Once you’ve written your vows, practice reading them aloud. This will help you become more comfortable with the words and ensure that they flow smoothly during the ceremony.

By following these tips and infusing your vows with personal touches, your wedding ceremony will be a heartfelt and unforgettable moment for both you and your partner. And remember, the most important thing is to speak from your heart.